Do you eat dinner with your children? Before Milo started school we was at nursery until 6:30 most days meaning he would only have a snack when he got in. Since Milo started school we have attempted to eat dinner with Milo. However, now I have a really unsociable timetable at uni and I don’t get home from uni until 8:30pm on two evenings which really sucks! Also, adding Oscar into the equation. It is so difficult to cook with Oscar as he moans in the highchair and the layout of our home does not allow Oscar to play on the floor whilst we cook. Normally, we cook either quick and child friendly dishes that normally include some kind of pasta: tuna pasta, spag bol, carbonara. Milo loves pasta so he loves it. Whilst Milo is eating, Oscar is being assisted with eating meaning that whoever is feeding him does not usually eat at the same time. Is this bad?
The conjunction of university timetabling and Oscars feeding has meant that now we are making dinner for ourselves later, once the kids are in bed . I know there is a mass amount of positive research into the importance of eating with your children but at the moment I do not feel that it is possible. The kids and I do not eat with the television on and I always try to prompt conversation over the dinner table whilst Milo is eating. Nevertheless, I can not help but feel a sense of guilt that because of studying commitments and a new member to the family Milo is now lacking what is advised for children; eating with your parents.
Another disadvantage of eating at the same time as the kids means I actually eat more. The kids have dinner at 4:00(ish) meaning that by the time they are in bed. I want to eat again. People will say oh you just need to get used to it. But I did this for a whole year and nothing changed. As soon as the kids went to bed, I made another dinner or raided the biscuit tin. Furthermore, I mean it could be argued that you should eat dinner with your partner as it is not nice to come home to eat alone. Lets face it not everyone has aligned working times, so having a family meal is much harder than it used to be.
Having said this, the weekends (including Fridays) as Milo stays up later we always try to make sure we eat as a family which I love. I am hoping once Oscar is more independent we can resume the dinner times we used to have. But work/study commitments gets in front of that too! How do you guys do it? Do your children eat the same as you or do you make more likable and child friendly dinners for them?
Lots of love